-by Kid Bucket-
I know it’s been a while since I wrote for haitibabies. I recently got a new job at Disney as a Jungle Cruise Skipper and with the training and everything that’s where most of my time has been going.
In the military there were few sayings that I have liked enough to use as a civilian, but one of the ones I liked the most was “Good Initiative, Bad Judgment”. Oh, you wanted to vacuum the floor? Good initiative. You did it when there was a meeting going on in the room you decided to vacuum? Bad judgment.
There seems to be a lot of people asking GOP candidates their views on gay rights and equality, including the video of the 5 year old telling Michelle Bachmann that his mother is fine and doesn’t need fixing (totally not put up to it at all). Now, I am all for questioning a candidate on their ideas, but the recent videos, to me, don’t put the candidates in as bad of a light as was intended. Every time someone questions the Bachmanns on their beliefs, you automatically know what the answer is going to be. 100% of the time, Michelle is going to say she beliefs that gay marriage is wrong. Those are her beliefs, and getting a string of people to shove a camera in her face and ask her over and over again what her views are isn’t helping anything. At this point, pretty much everybody knows what her views are—same with the majority of the GOP candidates.
That’s not to say you don’t have right to think they are completely wrong, which I do. Also, Mitt Romney is the only one who should be consistently asked what he thinks, since he has a history of not even knowing.
What all of this comes down to, in essence, is trying to force someone’s beliefs to change. One of the best pieces of dialogue I have ever heard is Chris Rock’s bit in Dogma about beliefs and ideas. Basically he is saying that ideas can be changed, because they are just that… ideas. But beliefs? They are much harder to change because they take a much stronger hold in the mind of the believer. When someone has an idea, it’s not something they generally tend to base their entire life on. But someone’s religious beliefs are usually very personal and important to them, and they make most of their decisions based on those beliefs.
You cannot force someone to change their beliefs, and if you are the one trying to get someone to change chances are you are going to look like the asshole. When Kobe Bryant called a referee a faggot, it was reported in the media as it should have been.
Then it kept piling on… and on… and on…
Until GLAAD made him apologize for what he said. It was a half hearted apology and everybody who saw it knew it. Was he really helping anything? Or did he just do it to get GLAAD off of his back?
Changing the minds of people with anti-gay (or anti-anything, really) takes time. If you look at how far America has come in all facets of social change, things are obviously leaps and bounds better than they were just 50 years ago.
All things take time, most of all changing the long-held beliefs of an entire voting base.